I remember it like it was yesterday. We were on our way to Atlantic City for a quick weekend getaway. I knew something wasn’t right when I wasn’t as excited as I should’ve been about getting away from my responsibilities. But I was so use to ignoring my issues and convincing myself that I was okay all to make him happy that it didn’t even faze me. So I still decided to go on the trip. Why did I go you ask? I thought deciding to go would give me the chance to clear my head. But, I was wrong. Before we even made it there I was already irritated with his attitude and I thought he would’ve done more to console me or at least make an effort to make the trip worthwhile, but he didn’t do anything.
I felt so out of place and being in his company wasn’t too comforting. It turns out my issue was standing right in front of me. I couldn’t take him anymore. I wanted out of this relationship and I wanted out fast. Our relationship sunk to say the least and there was no saving it. The butterflies I use to get have flown away, our communication turned into a few words and sex? Oh please, that was out the window. All the signs were there that I had fallen out of love with him. It was like I was physically still in the relationship and mentally somewhere else. I would hope you aren’t feeling the same way in your relationship, but if you are here’s what to do if you just aren’t feeling anymore:
Think it through carefully
Before anything your happiness is the most important thing. But maybe you aren’t in the same position I was in and might be feeling that it could be something else. If so, ask yourself some questions. Are you feeling this way all the time? Are you feeling held back? Does he make your heart flutter or sink when he walks into the room?
It sounds brutal, but the truth hurts. I hate confrontation and rather avoid it so this wasn’t easy for me at all. There really isn’t a specific way to call it quits. But you know our motto do it as classy as possible and avoid getting ratchet. Sometimes people can take you there so if you feel the need to go off on him/her by all means go off. (We won’t judge)
Find a way to tell him/her
This all depends on how long you’ve been dating. So if you’ve just started dating him/her you can say something like I know we just met, but I don’t think I want to take things further. But if you’ve been seeing each for months or close to a year it should be safe to say that you know how to call it off.
Always remember to follow your intuition when making emotional decisions. But if the signs are there don’t hesitate. The longer you wait the longer you will be unhappy. And for those that have been in their relationship for a year or more, this is just a minor setback for a major comeback. Don’t let this discourage you! There is someone out there that is the missing piece to your puzzle.
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