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Valentine's Day Special Editorial: Patiently Waiting…

Patience is defined as the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble or suffering without getting angry or upset. It seems like so much responsibility wrapped into one word yet it’s definition rings so clear. The art of patience is something that few can conquer. In matters of the heart it becomes much more complex than just the definition of the word. I pondered on patience and how it can be used during times of separation. Specifically in the relationship spectrum.

I’ve know so many people who have broken off relationships only to find out that their true love was someone who they didn’t have the patience to work with. Looking into my current relationship I began to think about how I’ve been so impatient at times that it caused unnecessary tension in my relationship. The key to keeping Mr.Right is knowing just how much patience to exercise to keep a healthy balance in your relationship. On the flip side when looking for Mr.Right patience works in the same way. One can’t become so anxious to lock in the right guy that they wind up settling for the wrong guy after lack of patience. Patience is not simply the ability to wait. It is how you behave while waiting.

Finding someone who compliments you isn’t an easy task. It takes time. The best part about exercising patience in your life is that it allows you feel suffering which in turn builds you up for appreciation. When you work hard at something you work ten times harder not to lose it. That is why patience is such an intricate part of any success in life. Patience is definitely easier said than done but without it you will find yourself comfortable in settling. When patiently waiting for a mate use the time to exercise your ability to wait on change. Use the time to learn how to look at the positive in every negative. Your companion needs to know that when times of suffering come in the midst of your relationship you are strong enough to handle it. Remember that even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness.goodgirlbadguy5

The darkness is what should be appreciated. It is in that darkness that you find your ability to trust and with that trust comes your patience. It’s in the trusting that you learn that nothing is impossible as long as you trust in you. It is the trust in yourself that will allow you to be patient enough to wait on right timing because you have YOU! When you trust yourself you’ll find it a lot easier to trust your mate and once you have trust you have a love without limitation. Have patience with all things, but first of all with yourself. Remember that our real blessing often appears to us in the shape of losses and pain; but the patience in tolerating the uneasy shift in your life is what places you in the right perspective for your future!

From the heart of Ebony S. Garris