While it’s no epidemic, it’s hard to argue that most of us have a little too much. Getting rid of things can be difficult. Things have value to you, whether you’ve formed a personal attachment to them or you believe you’ll have a practical use for it someday. Most of the time, “personal value” means guilt and “someday” never comes.
“Things” can also include people. People who suck the life out of you with constant negativity, complaints, gossip, selfishness, or extreme dependency are “Energy Vampires.” People can be toxic in different ways, but regardless of what kind of toxicity they bring to a relationship, they just have to go. Sit down and really think about the relationships in your life. Think about how you react to those relationships. Do you find yourself screening phone calls because of one or two people? Are you avoiding activities you use to enjoy because a certain person makes them miserable? These are glaring signs that you’re in a toxic relationship.
You wouldn’t hesitate to eliminate toxins out of your diet, so why is it that we are so hesitant to remove toxic people from our lives? The most obvious reason is that most of us like to avoid conflict and don’t want to hurt another human being’s feelings. However, you need to have the courage to tell a toxic person the truth. Not only is this the only way to remove a damaging relationship from your life, but that person needs to have his or her feelings hurt so they can examine their life, face their own toxicity, and hopefully make a change. They may or may not change, but that’s up to them not you. You can only change your own life by choosing who can be a part of it.