Now that summer is here the request for nudes might come around often (and were not talking about the color). That’s right! We’re talking about the pics. You’re probably thinking I would never do that or I haven’t even thought about doing something like that. Never say never! You’d be surprised how spontaneous you would become when it comes to a new bae or an already existing bae. Sometimes you have to do what it takes to make sure that “spark” stays. Now CLASSY|RATCHET isn’t condoning sending nudes, but we aren’t against it either. Let’s just say we’re meeting in the middle when it comes to this topic. You could be comfortable in your birthday suit like Kim K or you may want to show off that gym bod that you’ve worked so hard for. Whatever the case may be CLASSY|RATCHET just wanted to remind you of a few things before you hopped on the Kim K bandwagon and completed this dirty deed.
Here are a few things to consider before sending nudes:
Should you send them?
The question that every female wants answered. If the conversation happens to turn sexual and he asks for pictures that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s looking for sex; he could just be caught in the heat of the moment. But if you are serious about a relationship then it’s best to refrain from sending them. Sending the pics too soon could possibly destroy your chances of something serious. They might never admit it, but men are just as judgmental as women. He might be thinking, “Does she send pics to everyone?” Don’t come out flat and say no, have fun with it! Send him a sexy picture, but covered up and not too provocative or ask him something like, “do you want to see my girls?” And send him a picture of two melons or two kids holding hands. If he finds it funny, (let’s hope he does) then down the road you can send him something that isn’t too revealing, but if he continues to press you for pics you should probably kick him to the curb.
When is it okay to send noodz?
Definitely not before you had sex with him. In this case, less is definitely more. What fun is it, if your showing him the goods before actually making him work for it? As the saying goes, you never really know someone and we don’t say that to scare you, but you should establish a strong, trust worthy relationship before you even consider sending. His maturity level should be the next determining factor in whether or not he’s worthy of some risky pics. Just between us, guys never really mature. He could be over 25 and end up being a jerk that would show his friends. But if you are a 100% sure he’s serious about you and your feelings and wouldn’t do you dirty like Nikko did Mimi (minus the shower rod) then the decision is yours, because at the end of day whether he’s serious or not you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.
If you are going to send them…
Just to be clear, we aren’t condoning this, but if you decide to send bae some nudes it would probably be best to try to remain anonymous. So if you have any tattoos or birthmarks that could identify you try to take pics where those can’t be seen. This way he knows it’s from you, but you still get to remain anonymous should the pics get out. Ask yourself this, if nudes have to be the determining factor in whether or not he chooses to continue to pursue you is he really the one for you?
If you got it, flaunt it. But to extent that is! And if a guy keeps pressing you for some nudes; send him an X-Ray, because realistically it’s what’s on the inside that counts 😉
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