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SELF-CONTROL SUNDAY

“When the past calls, don’t answer it has nothing new to say.”

Letting go of someone is probably one of the hardest things to do. You constantly think about what could’ve been or what you could’ve done differently to make the person stay, but in reality there’s nothing YOU could have done. It’s always the person. Sometimes people come into your life to teach you lessons and help you avoid making the same mistake twice. Today, I am encouraging you to let go of the past and say goodbye. That’s why it’s called the past so that it stays behind you as you move forward and grow.

future and past concept with yellow road sign

How many times have you answered when the past starts calling? What is making you answer the phone call? The possibility that they might have made a 360? Is it the fact that you will feel guilty if you don’t answer? These are some of the questions that you should ask yourself and if the answer is yes think about all the pain that they might have caused instead of the good. As horrible as that may seem, would you want to deal with that pain again? Do you deserve that type of treatment? These are the real questions you should ask yourself! Putting something that you thought would work and once made you happy behind you is extremely hard. But you also have to think about how hurt you will be if you let this person back in and you end up dealing with hurt instead of happiness. Call it whatever you want, but I think of it as a spider web if you would’ve just avoided answering and leave the past where it belongs you wouldn’t be wrapped up in any drama.

At the end of the day, you have to think about YOU and YOUR happiness. Surround yourself with people that genuinely want to see you happy and do right by you. You should have people that call you just to check on you not when it’s a convenience to them. It’s so hard to say goodbye to the past and let go of someone that you loved dearly, but you have to learn to love people from a distance and know that the people that belong in your life will come and they will stay. I think the only reason people hold onto memories so tight is because memories are the only things that don’t change when everybody else does. We don’t remember days, we remember moments. So make unforgettable memories with those that truly love you and have proved they aren’t going anywhere and when the past starts calling always remember not to answer, because the past has nothing new to say!

 

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